parang kayo, pero hindi!!
[recorded] based on someone’s experience, my experience, my friend’s experience, we all experienced and are experiencing this!!..like me and mac, che and eric, ate jo and ------, etc.
parang kayo pero hindi stage or more on known as the MU or mutual understanding..what is it really?..it is a phase where the persons invoved are more than friends, but not quiet lovers..there might be an agreement or mutual understanding..one or both of them may have admitted their feelings pero wala talagang verbal agreement..they just let their gestures do the talking for them..
just like in the story, MU can happen at different stages for different reason..it can be happen after break up or before a new relationship..for a time, it can be fun..pero am sure you know na may kapalit lahat ng happenings ninyo..like first: YOU CANT ASK HIM/HER TO COMMIT, since wala kayong relationship, hindi ka pwedeing mag demand ng commitment from your partner..”ano ba kayo?”..you will always be uncertain about your role in his life..hindi mo pwedeng i-expect na nandiyan siya lage for you or call you everytime..and if you feel that you are jealous dahil as iba, you just have to keep it to yourself..again, “ano ka ba niya para magselos?”..another is: YOU CAN’T BE SURE OF HIS/HER TRUE FEELINGS, kahit na sobrang in love ka pa sa kanya, hindi ka parin sure if he feels the same din for you..you may just be assuming too much!..even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you cant!..or let’s say, pinaalam mo na, yet hindi ka parin sure sa nararamdaman niya for you..because you’re not sure if he’ll/she’ll gonna like it..baka mapahiya ka lang diba?!..this stagae will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship, or kung meron nga ba talaga?????!!!!!........
i know MU relationship is really cool kasi you can enjoy things lovers do without commitment..pero in return, ang sakit din..kase pano kung masyado ka nang naging attached as kanya??..yung tipong laki na ng asa mo na magiging kayo na talaga, na hindi ka na nag-eentertain ng iba dahil lang as kanya?..pero only to find out na he/she is seeing someone else na pala?!..so if you’re having this “parang-kayo-pero-hindi” relationship, the only way to figure out the real score is sign na you have to move on, ok??..
many of us are wishing, praying, hoping and dreaming of having someone by our side..naghihintay na may ihulog ang langit para as atin..we would even try reading books about love and how to win it..
tapos kapag may nakita, we would do anything just to make the person fell that he/she is loved..we sometimes sacrifice our happiness just to be with the person we love..in the process, we all get hurt..tapos we would give-up thinking na love was never for us..
the misconception of humans about love and relationship is that having someone with us will make us complete..but the fact is, “love is extending one’s self to another”..it means that before we enter a realationship, we should already be COMPLETE!..otherwise, if we think that having someone will make us complete, it’s not a realtionship, it’s dependence and it may not work out..when you are happy about yourself and you learn to love yourself and you have a this “close” realationship with the Lord, then you may probably not need a partner (to a certain extent).
right now, am trying to love myself more and to accept completeness..what happens next will be another story..but for some who may be losing hope, this affirmation may help..
"trust God, and let His will be done!"
-Lee Falcon
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